WEBVTT 0 00:00:02.750 --> 00:00:04.070 So we're gonna do a regular check-in, 1 00:00:04.190 --> 00:00:05.030 we'll say our name, 2 00:00:05.139 --> 00:00:06.070 we'll say who died, 3 00:00:06.190 --> 00:00:07.289 we'll say how they died, 4 00:00:07.349 --> 00:00:09.890 and then I just want you to tell me 5 00:00:10.069 --> 00:00:10.909 in one word, 6 00:00:10.930 --> 00:00:12.300 how you would describe that person. 7 00:00:12.390 --> 00:00:13.100 Were they funny? 8 00:00:13.220 --> 00:00:14.449 Were they serious? 9 00:00:14.850 --> 00:00:15.250 OK. 10 00:00:19.389 --> 00:00:22.739 The sharing Place is a grief support center for children, 11 00:00:22.889 --> 00:00:23.500 teens, 12 00:00:23.530 --> 00:00:27.620 and their families where they can traverse grief, 13 00:00:27.899 --> 00:00:31.340 meeting other children that are going through similar experiences. 14 00:00:32.200 --> 00:00:33.049 I'm Lily. 15 00:00:33.200 --> 00:00:33.520 Uh, 16 00:00:33.639 --> 00:00:35.740 my brother died from brain cancer. 17 00:00:36.319 --> 00:00:36.880 Something I would, 18 00:00:37.040 --> 00:00:40.029 a word I would use to describe my brother would be wacky. 19 00:00:40.319 --> 00:00:41.040 Wacky. 20 00:00:41.970 --> 00:00:42.669 With children, 21 00:00:43.130 --> 00:00:45.990 I don't think we do a good job of handling grief, 22 00:00:46.209 --> 00:00:48.349 and until I was impacted by it, 23 00:00:48.569 --> 00:00:51.509 I don't think I really realized the intensity. 24 00:00:52.130 --> 00:00:54.770 The people who died were my dad 25 00:00:57.229 --> 00:00:57.259 Caleb, 26 00:00:57.290 --> 00:00:58.990 and my brother Tony both passed away from cancer. 27 00:00:59.255 --> 00:00:59.705 And 28 00:00:59.814 --> 00:01:02.744 the word I would describe my brother as is sassy, 29 00:01:02.854 --> 00:01:03.994 and I would describe 30 00:01:04.614 --> 00:01:06.595 my dad as positive. 31 00:01:06.815 --> 00:01:07.004 Well, 32 00:01:07.254 --> 00:01:08.434 I liked those words. 33 00:01:08.805 --> 00:01:10.214 My name's Chris Chytraus. 34 00:01:10.415 --> 00:01:12.135 I'm an RN by background, 35 00:01:12.214 --> 00:01:16.614 and I am the co-founder of the Sharing Place in Salt Lake City. 36 00:01:26.959 --> 00:01:28.379 I met Jeff through his cousin. 37 00:01:30.800 --> 00:01:32.309 He had a lot of humor. 38 00:01:32.559 --> 00:01:34.739 He was a very fun loving. 39 00:01:35.080 --> 00:01:35.160 Um, 40 00:01:35.839 --> 00:01:36.360 this, 41 00:01:36.680 --> 00:01:38.339 this one and this one 42 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:39.959 are at the cemetery. 43 00:01:43.379 --> 00:01:46.139 My husband passed away two days after he was 36, 44 00:01:46.260 --> 00:01:47.129 and my kids, 45 00:01:47.290 --> 00:01:48.430 Megan and Christopher, 46 00:01:48.660 --> 00:01:49.739 were 4 and 6, 47 00:01:50.019 --> 00:01:51.279 and I kept hearing 48 00:01:51.610 --> 00:01:52.370 kids don't grieve, 49 00:01:52.419 --> 00:01:53.120 they'll be fine, 50 00:01:53.260 --> 00:01:56.199 but I was seeing behavior changes in my own kids. 51 00:01:56.699 --> 00:02:01.199 It was at that point where I really saw that they needed to meet other people 52 00:02:01.620 --> 00:02:03.959 that had gone through a similar experience. 53 00:02:05.779 --> 00:02:07.949 And there was just something 54 00:02:08.250 --> 00:02:11.229 that told me that this was something I needed to do. 55 00:02:11.610 --> 00:02:11.809 OK, 56 00:02:11.929 --> 00:02:12.949 so we're going to pass the magic. 57 00:02:14.169 --> 00:02:14.729 Oh, 58 00:02:14.850 --> 00:02:15.800 that's good magic. 59 00:02:16.009 --> 00:02:20.229 The sharing place changes the approach to grief by providing support. 60 00:02:20.449 --> 00:02:23.369 It normalizes the grief where they can talk about 61 00:02:23.369 --> 00:02:25.940 their experience and find out that they're not alone. 62 00:02:26.250 --> 00:02:28.759 What I really like about the sharing place is that 63 00:02:29.089 --> 00:02:30.470 it's easier 64 00:02:30.610 --> 00:02:32.070 to connect to 65 00:02:32.289 --> 00:02:35.229 other people because they know what 66 00:02:35.490 --> 00:02:37.649 you have gone through and what you're going through. 67 00:02:37.929 --> 00:02:37.949 Oh, 68 00:02:38.440 --> 00:02:39.580 this is getting stronger. 69 00:02:41.070 --> 00:02:44.619 My favorite part about the sharing place is all the coping skills we learned. 70 00:02:44.820 --> 00:02:47.300 I like learning how to like breathe in different 71 00:02:47.300 --> 00:02:49.360 ways cause it like helps calm me down. 72 00:02:49.860 --> 00:02:51.020 We have our volcano room, 73 00:02:51.059 --> 00:02:55.050 which is a room that's padded with lots of objects that they can throw, 74 00:02:55.059 --> 00:02:57.360 and they can be as angry as they want to be 75 00:02:57.539 --> 00:02:58.720 in a safe environment. 76 00:02:59.380 --> 00:03:04.970 There's really fun activities like volcano room and the drums. 77 00:03:05.300 --> 00:03:06.919 We're all going to make our own 78 00:03:07.460 --> 00:03:08.220 rhythm 79 00:03:08.649 --> 00:03:10.199 based on our person's name. 80 00:03:10.729 --> 00:03:10.889 So, 81 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:13.330 my dad's name was Blaine Vernal Hendrickson. 82 00:03:13.649 --> 00:03:13.729 So, 83 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:15.009 I'm going to make a rhythm for him. 84 00:03:17.789 --> 00:03:17.869 And 85 00:03:20.970 --> 00:03:25.059 It's amazing when we come together as a community at the sharing place, 86 00:03:25.100 --> 00:03:28.919 you're there and focused on one thing and you become friends 87 00:03:29.210 --> 00:03:32.360 and you see that we're not all so different. 88 00:03:32.740 --> 00:03:36.500 We're more alike than people tend to believe sometimes. 89 00:03:38.020 --> 00:03:38.770 And 90 00:03:39.059 --> 00:03:42.710 as sad as it is that it's grief that brings us together, 91 00:03:43.020 --> 00:03:48.559 it still strengthens us as human beings and strengthens us as Americans 92 00:03:48.860 --> 00:03:51.880 when we come together to give back to the community.